Teens: 12 Tips for Parents
Thursday, March 29th, 2012
Although these years can be difficult, the reward is to see the children become independent adults, concerned and responsible. The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) offers the following tips to help you cope with the challenges of child-teenage daughter :
1. Make time for your adolescent family
Many pre-teens and teens seem more aware of their friends, but this does not mean they are not interested in the family.
2. Spend time alone with your teenager
Although your son or daughter does not want some time alone with you, take the time to remind you always open doors for him / her, and always available if you need to talk. Remind often.
3. When your teen talk:
- Pay attention
- Look, while you listen
- Try not to interrupt
- Ask him to explain things further if you do not understand
- if you do not have time for when your son or daughter wants to talk, set a time to listen with full attention
4. Respect your teen’s feelings
You can disagree with your son or daughter, but do so respectfully, not offensively. Do not think your feelings or opinions are ridiculous or meaningless. You may not always be able to help when your child is sad about something, but it is important to say “I like to understand” or “help me understand.”
5. When rules are required, define them and have them respected
Do not be afraid to be unpopular and do not look good with their children for a day or two. Believe it or not, teenagers are the limits as a way to concern.
6. Try not bother if your teen makes mistakes
The errors will help your child to take responsibility for their own actions. Remember to provide guidance when necessary. Focus discussions towards solutions.
“What a pity to find all your clothes on the ground” is much better than, “You’re a messy!”
Be willing to negotiate and make compromises. This will teach them to solve problems in a healthy way. Do not waste time and energy on unimportant things.
7. Criticize behavior, not attitude
Instead of saying, “You’re late! You’re so irresponsible … I do not like that attitude “try saying,” I worry a lot about you when you do not get, I think you might have missed something … What could we do to get you on time? Could you tell where you’re going and if you arrive late? “
8. Let her know when things seem right and he likes
Just as adolescents need to know how you feel when you are not doing what is expected of them, also need to know that you appreciate the positive things they do.
For example “I’m so proud (a) that do the work and I also you help set the table “.
9. Let your child be the teenager who he wants to be, not the one you want is
Do not push your teen to be like you were or as you would have liked to have been at their age. Allow some leeway on things like clothes or haircut . Many teenagers go through a “rebellious period” in which they want to express themselves in ways different from how parents are. However, worry of the messages you hear in music, movies and video games.
10. Remember that you are a parent and a friend (a)
The separation provides the teen with parents is normal. Do not take it to personally.
11. Do not be afraid to share with your teen that you have made ??mistakes
Make some mistakes not so bad. Try to share with your son or daughter the mistakes you made as a teenager.
12. Talk to your pediatrician if you are having difficulties with his son-daughter
Your Dr. or Dr. will be able to help you and your child to find ways to overcome difficulties.
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